Understanding codependency is not black and white situation but rather many color combinations with their own canvas to lay them on. Humans are the grand painters, and each step we take to getting a clearer view of our recovery is a paint stroke to dive deeper into the complexity of our own path. We slowly start to visualize our masterpiece, which is our self-value and the life we are building.
That is our power as the artists of our lives: understanding why we chose the things that we do, how it affects us and the willpower that lies within us to change the course of our path by taking healthier and authentic choices. We put a huge effort by accepting our codependent characteristics and working WITH them, not against them. They are the arrows that point to the things that we lack within ourselves and our relationships, especially our closest ones. It is looking at our side of the street, not others. We cannot be fully codependent if we are completely alone, and many people choose solitude because of that. We do not have to live in the shadows. We do not have to be so afraid of people or ourselves. We do not have to walk on eggshells, fearing our reactions. We can learn how to sit with our feelings and move from a calmer and clearer space that feels honest to us. Codependency is about discovering where the fear and the anxiety come from. Its about creating a radically compassionate relationship with yourself as you move through the acceptance of it. It is about living life with healthy boundaries, self-care, detachment and serenity as it unfolds.
Lack of Trust